Some couples go through life with a ten-foot pole between them.
One approaches, the other moves away.
They take turns approaching and distancing, and each blames the other for the distance.
For some the pole is six feet, for others six inches; but the result is the same.
For some the distance is in the computer screen, for others at Golf, for still others in an affair; but the result is the same.
Better to each let go: fluidly move far apart at times, feel totally merged at times, and find a comfortable distance most of the time.
Differentiate. Learn to dance with the distance.