“Science confirms it: people are not pets” is the title of a recent article in the NYT by Alfie Kohn, the author of “Punished By Rewards” and other books (Oct 25, 2018, SR p 10). It is one of the most common misconceptions about human behavior, that rewarding a behavior will lead to increases of …
This piece by Emma Haak was sent to me by colleagues who work from an Imago perspective, which is an approach to couples work that I highly respect. So many thanks to my friendly Imago therapists who shared this with me: Patty Mangini, PhD, Michael Scott, MFT Maria Monroe, MFT Researchers have looked at everything …
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Here’s the gist of what I’m going to say here: Over the last 40 years male sperm count has decreased by 50% in all industrial nations and it keeps going down. 15% of couples are unable to have a baby (are infertile). Half the time a couple can’t have a baby male infertility is involved. …
Sperm Counts Decline of 50% since 1973, more so among older men, and yet… Read More »
People who value autonomy and independence may be less likely to feel gratitude in response to a gift or favor, which could interfere with their bonds with others, suggests research in Cognition and Emotion. In a study with more than 500 participants, researchers found that people who self-reported a higher level of autonomy (not wanting to …
Independent, Autonomous and UNGRATEFUL, or is that Counter-dependent? Read More »
“We are not just homo sapiens. We are HOMO VINCULUM – an emotional bonding mammal. Recognizing this is crucial to our survival – as individuals – as couples – as families – as tribes – as nations.” Sue Johnson, PhD, Founder of EFT, plenary talk from the Creating Connections Conference 2016,
There is a well known 2013 study by Gross and Prott on height perception. If I am standing on the bottom of a hill, I will always overestimate its height; if I am carrying a heavy backpack, my brain says that the hill is even higher. Yet, if my friend is standing next to me the …
In addition to the relationship myths below, Esther Perel gives us this nice list of misconceptions about sex: – Sex is spontaneous and should be effortless. – Men are always interested and ready for sex. – Sexual function equals sexual satisfaction. – Sex is better when you’re young. – People are either straight or gay …
Investigators at the University of Texas at Austin found that a brief, moderate strength and cardiovascular exercise regimen preceding sexual activity was associated with improvement in sexual desire and significantly improved sexual functioning in women with more severe sexual dysfunction related to antidepressants. Previous studies suggested that exercise has the potential to improve sexual function …
Exercise Before Sex Cuts Antidepressants’ Sexual Side Effects for Women Read More »
From Psychology Today… “…Interestingly, the reasons men and women engage in relationship infidelity are often quite different, with each gender’s motivations generally paralleling our basic understanding of male and female sexuality. In short, women are usually interested in sex that includes (or at least hints at) some sort of emotional or relationship connection, while men are typically seeking a …
Great TED Talk about sex and attachment theory.