I provide:Dr. McConnell

  • Couples therapy, marriage counseling, and help for complex relationships.
  • Short-term individual therapy focused on symptom relief.
  • Long-term individual psychotherapy focused on personality issues and deeper change.
  • Supervision of two interns who can provide lower cost services
  • Consultation to therapists.

With thirty years of experience, I bring warmth, experience, and practical insight to my work in psychotherapy.  I have learned to be flexible in approaching different problems with different tools, always research-based.

Every person and couple I see is different: different strengths; different weaknesses; and their own way of managing conflict and connection.  I love this aspect of my work. The endless variety that people bring into my office makes my work an ongoing source of challenge, interest and pleasure.

I enjoy providing psychotherapy now as much as when I was new to the field.  To keep fresh I limit the hours I practice each week, read widely, attend new workshops, consult with colleagues on new ideas, and find pleasure in my clients and their progress. I also enjoy the technical process of the work itself, and the elegance and logic of current theories of psychotherapy.  And, my work has changed: fifteen years ago almost all my work was individual psychotherapy.  Now over half my work is with couples therapy.

Only 18% of therapists  doing couple therapy in the US actually have training in couples work! Our team uses EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy).  EFT was developed for couples work, and has been expanded to work with other relationships.  It is a well proven, evidence-based approach that has been researched over 25 years.  When useful, we will integrate interventions from other schools of therapy to our core EFT approach.

My goal is to help people heal and move on as quickly as possible, but there is no magic. What at first looks like a simple task of symptom relief can sometimes uncover deeper issues, and deeper change takes time.  “Short-term psychotherapy” is 12 to 13 sessions. “Long-term psychotherapy” can last a year or several years. Couples work typically takes 15 to 20 sessions, but may last longer.


The best way to set up an appointment is to call.  My voice mail is confidential.  (619) 993-3397). Email and texting also works, but calling works best. 


Dr McConnell provides clinical supervision to two associates.  Each associate has completed their Master’s degree, during which they did substantial clinical work.  Each has trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as well as other modalities.  Each has a wealth of life experience they bring to their professional work.  They are currently accumulating the final supervised hours they require before launching into their own independent practices.  Dr. McConnell meets with each associate weekly to discuss their work and review video clips of their sessions.

As a team, we provide experience and specialization in a wide range of issues, including Sexual, Gender and Relationship Diversity.

Each of our team maintains their own web site which you can visit to find out more about them.  For more about Dr. McConnell, click here, or explore his website.

Julia Schiffman, MSWJulia Schiffman, MSW, ASW (ASW 77096)
(619) 623-4457‬

Julia’s calm and warm presence is therapeutic in itself.  She helps clients understand the inner dynamics of their conflicts so they can move forward. She has a wide background in counseling and sex education.

  • $100/hour before 5:00pm; $120/hr after 5:00pm
  • Reduced fees available for clients in financial need
  • Couples, Adults and Adolescents
  • Sex Therapy
  • Gender Diversity 
  • BDSM, Kink and PE
  • Depression
  • Domestic Violence, Childhood and Adult Trauma
  • Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), Trauma Focused-CBT, Motivational Interviewing (MI) and Problem Solving Therapy PST),.

Lonny Miller, MA, MFTA (103902)
(858) 381-0544

Lonny takes a client-centered, humanistic approach.  His style is warm and nurturing.  Prior to his career as a therapist, Lonny was Director of Enterprise Solutions for the largest privately held global information company in the world, facilitating the integration of IT for large corporate mergers.  You wouldn’t know this from his warm, understated manner.

  • $100/hr before 5:00pm; $120/hr after 5:00pm
  • Reduced fees available for clients in financial need
  • Couples, Adults and Adolescents
  • Adults and Adolescents
  • Parenting in Non-Traditional Relationships
  • Substance Abuse & Process Addictions
  • Men’s issues and Social Justice issues
  • Trauma, PTSD, Depression,  Anxiety
  • Emotional Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), Narrative Therapy, 12-Step, Rational Therapy

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